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The Kitchen Shrink by Andrea Oskis (Hardback)
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9781526678713
Published:
30 Jan 2025
Format:
Hardback
Number of pages:
304 pages
Dimensions:
236x154x32mm
Weight:
0.500kgs
Author:
There is no better way to understand ourselves and our relationships with others than through what we eat. What does food tell us about love? For psychoanalytic therapist Andrea Oskis, the deeply personal stories her patients share with her and that tell her the most about them are not those about narcissist mothers, neglectful fathers or rivaling siblings. The stories that are the most revealing are their food stories. Food and attachment are entwined from day one; the first bond we make as a tiny human being is to the person who feeds us. And as Oskis demonstrates, if we cannot find feelings of comfort or security in food, we tend not to find them in relationships either.
'Poignant and often sad, the stories of Oskis's patients peel back the layers of the human mind and our attachment to people and things... What becomes clear as consume is that food is humanity's original and universal love language' The Mail on Sunday
'I was editor of Psychologies Magazine for a long time, and I've had a lot of books across my desk, but nothing like this! Dr Oskis shows us that what's on our plate speaks volumes about our hearts' Suzy Walker, Muddy Stilettos
There is no better way to understand ourselves and our relationships with others than through what we eat.
Me: 'When did you know he didn't love you anymore?'
My patient: 'It wasn't when we stopped having sex. No, it was when he stopped eating dinner with me.'
That was the lightbulb moment. That was when I discovered there is no better way to get inside people's lives than through their stories about food.
Did you know that the food we eat reveals a lot about how we love?
Psychologist Dr Andrea Oskis shows us how we connect with each other and how we can change our relationship 'recipes' for the better. Along the way, she also reveals her own food story about love and loss.
Inviting us into her therapy room, she tells us:
the real reason why comfort food comforts
why dessert isn't a good idea when you're stressed
what makes children feel obliged to eat their greens
why you should never give a bottle of hot sauce to someone who has been rejected
Be prepared to never look at your plate in the same way again.
About the Author: Andrea Oskis is a psychologist, a food writer and a professional cook. She is interested in the two things that are crucial for human survival: relationships and food. Her academic expertise is human relationships; how we connect, love and attach in couples and communities, and she has researched, taught and written about this for more than twenty years. Andrea is Greek Cypriot and so, perhaps not unsurprisingly, the kitchen has always had a natural pull. In 2018 she took an intensive course in classic cookery at Leiths School of Food and Wine. Andrea's food writing has been published in Vittles, Pit Magazine and Gastronomica, The Journal for Food Studies. She is a member of the Guild of Food Writers. In 2022, Andrea was shortlisted for Moniack Mohr's Emerging Writer of the Year and a Guild of Food Writers Award. In 2023, she won the MFK Fisher Last House Writing Contest. She is also a Fellow of the British Psychological Society.
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